Tips for Modifying Your Traditional Thanksgiving Celebrations.
With COVID-19 cases in the United States on the rise, many experts are suggesting altering typical Thanksgiving plans.
Here are tips on how to politely modify your traditional Thanksgiving plans and avoid long-term fallout with family.
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Before speaking with relatives, decide what level of risk you’re willing to take.
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If you’re trying to keep it small, appease family members outside of your household by connecting via video chat in lieu of a traditional meal.
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No matter how much guilt you may feel about changing tradition, stick to your values.
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Craig Sawchuk, a clinical psychologist at the Mayo Clinic, says making “decisions in our life” that are consistent with our “values” is for the best.
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Talk to your usual guests now about any changes, rather than waiting until the last minute.
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If you’re worried about how people will react, write out what you want to say and be clear that your concerns are for everyone, not just for yourself.
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If you’re open to compromise, be sure you’re making the safest choices.
Consider hosting Thanksgiving outside or spread the celebration across multiple dates.
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Be ready for strong emotions when you start to propose any changes.
If your family members don’t agree with making change, try to frame it as creating “new rituals.”.
Dr. Angelle Richardson, a family therapist, suggests acknowledging that things are “different” this year but reinforcing that it can still be a “fun” day.