Susan Latta of Alleo Health/Hospice of Chattanooga discusses dealing with grief in the holidays

Susan Latta of Alleo Health/Hospice of Chattanooga discusses dealing with grief in the holidays

The chattanooga of vallejo health celebrate years of not profit care this year.

Although 20/20 has been full of trials and difficulty hospice of chattanooga is here for you always ... hospice of 10.

It offers grief support in group and individual settings ... that are free to the community, regardless ... of whether the individual has used their services before or not ... there is a lot of director of grief counseling for hospice of chattanooga joins us this morning ... to discuss grief and the holidays taken morning season.

How are you getting ready to doing well thank you isaac and tom that if this is the first holiday without a loved one ... .

Obviously, it can be feminist challenging times.

What are some ways that individuals can still ... celebrate this member.

The theme ... one of the first things people need to recognize is that it is very difficult and see then for a lot of different people with coven and with reef and and the various experiences of people have had over the last year and so i the first thing to do is to figure out what is most orton as far as traditions do you always want.

Do you want to do this ministry you want to make whatever food that you've alway had soap.

Make a list of what is a mass ... maybe make a list of what is possible and what you can do that would be the first thing another thing i would do is wit kid include them in your planning his kids have a lot of ideas and a lot of the things that they want to continue so years ago is working with famil and that i very suddenly i was talking to his eight-year-old son.

It was in over november i sent you know how are you doing you know and he said i have a question for you and i said oka said what we can do it at stocking what you want to do what i want stocking on and after thanksgiving and every day with notes and stuff and isthmus morning working or the notes out and work in every such a great and happy to have you talked your knees that now.

So we went to mom and told mom his idea and you can just see my life.

I know i can do this, but they did at an end notes were put in that stocking throughout the season.

Christmas morning, they were ordered out and he wanted to read them, which he did and one of them said hey dad, i got ham spelling test an so the importance of including head in the meanest really really because they have needs just like we as adult ... me, that's a wonderful idea ... for us to get involved in the entire family and look at the opposite end of the spa canal a well say ... they were not ready to honor and celebrate that loved one.

Maybe we deal ... we can't face the holidays.

Do you any questions on how to hel her how to maybe gather that fo something.

Yes it remember it said 24.

You're getting it up whenever you get up you're going to go back to bed whenever you go back to bed and then the next day will be there and so i think it is him orton just cannot break it down into theories small doable things and to know that people are can have all different ideas of how you should do the day all different family members are going read weber has died differently and so is horton for you just place no judgment on whatever your choice or whatever your actions or decisions are, or whether a tonic for christmas.

Whatever the holiday last question and we have several more questions i want to get this linen row quickly as i went to family and were planning for the holidays.

I ... we don't always agree on how we want to handle the holiday tips for ... dealing with our family at this ... so there has to be compromise and again it is, you know who is the one that makes the final decision is it always the adult is a cancer that the adult and in realizing that everyone again.

Everyone is in a one thing different and it may be that on i was talking with someone earlier this month and their kids wanted do a play setting the table for thanksgiving and that it was a father.

But the wife grandmother just could not and so the kids had to figure out how they would figure out what to do with and they ended up not doing any and so that was something that the kids had to navigate with their own feelings because they felt like it would be to you know grandma just like new.

I and so is talking and trying to is not ... it's not always be easy.

It's not a a present that you can just unwrap and then there's solution.

There may be a lot of conversation and maybe some hur feelings as so-and-so wants this done and so-and-so doesn't want ... to ask my point is that we all internalize.

We all process these emotions at different speeds at different times.

This is why it's so important to wor with someone like yourself interested in individual or in a group setting.

This is a fast way for us to find out ... how when a group session is available or how to schedule an individual session with you and your team ... great great question you can call 423805 you can call 423-80- 1112 and leave a message at numbers available 24 seven.

You can also go online to our our web type www.chattanooga.or and go to the brief section in the list all the records we have a variety of different workgroup out there on suicides have 33 $.33 open started and we have a weekly suicides are great.

We have a drug overdose of orchid is also in these as well as in general reef groups that are available to anybody at no season.

Thank you for joining u this morning giving us some way i forward to the holidays.

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